“Although most boys figure out how to bring themselves to orgasm by age thirteen, half of girls don’t have their first orgasms until their late teens, twenties, or beyond. Teenage girls widely agree that they get the message loud and clear that masturbation is something boys do, but girls don’t, can’t, or shouldn’t. The cultural focus on intercourse tells young women to expect they’ll begin to experience sexual pleasure once they have sex with a man (whether or not they’re even interested in sex with men). Nearly all teen boys, on the other hand, experience sexual pleasure long before they get their hands—or other body parts—into a partner’s pants. Despite the massive advances in women’s equality, young women’s sexuality is stuck in a surprising paradox. Young women are sold provocative clothes but aren’t taught where to find their own clitoris. Many girls give their boyfriends oral sex, but are too uncomfortable with their own bodies to allow the guys to return the favor. It’s still a radical act to say that women need and deserve access to information about their own sexual pleasure—not just about the risks and negative consequences of sex.”—Dorian Solot, I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide. (via wewantrevolutiongirlstylenow)
There is no crisis of rampant unemployment caused by people who have come to this nation to work and to make a better life for themselves and their families. Our nation’s current unemployment and underemployment situation is a result of a recession and economic upheaval caused by greed and fraud by enormous investment and financial firms, by regulators and enforcement officials who have allowed all of it to happen, without any accountability by the perpetrators, and by the corruption and ineptitude of those who were elected to represent our interests but who instead have served the corrupt interests of their campaign contributors by de-regulating the financial industry.
Let us all understand the true causes of our recent economic travails and take measures to correct our nation’s course, rather than being diverted by the hostility and misinformation that has led to mindlessly scapegoating immigrants.
Unjust laws exist: shall we be content to obey them, or shall we endeavor to amend them, and obey them until we have succeeded, or shall we transgress them at once? Men, generally, under such a government as this, think that they ought to wait until they have persuaded the majority to alter them. They think that, if they should resist, the remedy would be worse than the evil. But it is the fault of the government itself that the remedy is worse than the evil. It makes it worse. Why is it not more apt to anticipate and provide for reform? Why does it not cherish its wise minority?
If the injustice is part of the necessary friction of the machine of government, let it go, let it go: perchance it will wear smooth—certainly the machine will wear out. If the injustice …is of such a nature that it requires you to be the agent of injustice to another, then I say, break the law. Let your life be a counter-friction to stop the machine. What I have to do is to see, at any rate, that I do not lend myself to the wrong which I condemn.
“If the government told you tomorrow that it was going to choose for you where to live, how to earn your keep, and who to marry – would you fall to your knees and thank the heavens that you have been saved from such terrible anarchy – the anarchy of making your own decisions in the absence of direct political coercion? […] Thus we can see that we human beings are deeply, almost ferociously ambivalent about ‘anarchy.’ We desperately desire it in our personal lives, and just as desperately fear it politically.
i’m leaving for the airport in half an hour or so, just waiting for my dad’s girlfriend to arrive because i’m borrowing her camera. i lost my camera charger. >_>
i’d be more excited usually, but quite frankly, not really “feeling it” right now. dunno. i guess i’m too tired to deal with everything right now. i just really look forward to getting some rest in Paris and maybe going to Avignon if i can find a way to pay for my ticket when i get there (i don’t have a credit card).
maybe it’s because i’m wondering how it would be like now if i knew you’d be there. 8 months have passed love, but i know you won’t be there like you said you would. not your fault— not your fault at all— but it’s still very disappointing, and maybe that’s what’s weighing in my mind most right now.
and then there’s all the uncertainty. we were supposed to fix it up next week when we’d see each other— now what?
but despite it all i’ll go there and have fun with my friends and maybe meet new ones. make the most of this trip since it looks like it will be my last one for a while.
1. Make Eye Contact I cannot stress enough how important I feel it is to look someone in the eye. Everyone. From your loved ones to store clerks & bank tellers. Treat everyone like your equal. I also find eye contact immensely attractive. It shows you’re assured & open & I dig that.
2. Remember Facts About Other People This ties into ‘be a good listener’ which I think everyone loves in a person. I also feel it’s important to remember the anecdotes & facts people tell you. I’m not talking just birthdays & phone numbers. When someone remembers that I take my coffee black or that I once had a cat named Killer, I know they’re a good person. I know sometimes it feels this way, but not everyone is talking just to hear the sound of their own voice, sometimes people are trying to connect. Find those people & connect.
3. Have Individuality & Confidence In Dress I like when a person looks comfortable in their own skin. I don’t care if you dress conservative or eccentric, so long as it expresses who you are as a person & you look like you chose your look because it makes you happy & not because it’s what is expected.
4. Love What You Love SB & I went on a rant about this the other day & I kept shouting “LOVE WHAT YOU LOVE!” It is my new life motto. I loathe when people automatically reject something because they think it would be lame to like that something. I would much rather someone vehemently hate something I love for their own personal reasons than agree with me because they think they’re supposed to. No more guilty pleasures. Love what you love without shame.
5. SHOW ENTHUSIASM! Everyone I truly love sometimes gets so overwhelmed by their excitement that they start shouting or typing in CRAZY CAPS. I adore this trait. I spent most of my early 20s acting like I was too cool to get excited about something unless I was drunk. That’s silly. Giggle, clap, jump up & down. True honest enthusiasm is endearing & infectious.
6. Be Willing To Change No matter what convictions you have now, accept that life is change. You will change, your circumstances will change, roll with it. Allow yourself to grow & evolve. Don’t stick stubbornly to a belief or idea just because it’s something you believe now. If it’s meant to stick, it’ll stick on it’s own. Just be willing to change. Keep this motto that Cher recites in Mermaids close to your heart: Life is change. Death is living in the past or staying in one place too long.
7. Accept That Other People Are Better Than You Do what you love, even if you’re not the best. This is difficult for alphas to accept. I’ve given up many a project because I wasn’t instantly awesome at the task. Keep trying, improve & accept that doing what you love is just that; it’s not being the best, it’s being fulfilled. That being said, if you really truly suck at something, & sometimes you will, maybe give it up & try something else.
8. Be Spontaneously Affectionate Tell people you love that you love them, but also show them that you love them. Hug, hold hands, link arms. When a friend overwhelms you with their adorableness, tell them. Respect that some people don’t respond well to physical affection & find other ways to let them know they’re loved. Do all this freely, generously, often.
9. Stick Up For Yourself Just as you should question your convictions, you should also be skilled at defending them. Don’t let anyone talk you out of something you truly believe. Respect their differing opinion, listen, absorb, but don’t sacrifice your opinions to appease another. I would also add that you should pick your debates, don’t vehemently argue every difference. Sometimes it’s fine to let someone go on about something you disagree with. You’ll learn a differing view & maybe it’s not worth the effort to dispute their opinion.
10. Love Yourself Best This sounds selfish, but it’s not. Remember what RuPaul says: If you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else? Love others, give yourself to others, trust others, but remember that you have to love yourself best so you can give well to the people in your life. Have fun with yourself, enjoy your own company, challenge & be proud of yourself.
“We were not born critical of existing society. There was a moment in our lives (or a month, or a year) when certain facts appeared before us, startled us, and then caused us to question beliefs that were strongly fixed in our consciousness-embedded there by years of family prejudices, orthodox schooling, imbibing of newspapers, radio, and television. This would seem to lead to a simple conclusion: that we all have an enormous responsibility to bring to the attention of others information they do not have, which has the potential of causing them to rethink long-held ideas.”—Howard Zinn (via joemccarthyblues)
Despite the Syrian regime’s relentless crusade to ban activists from sending and receiving information in their country, dissidents have found a number of ways to stay connected. Here is a brief overview of three methods they use.
1) Proxy servers:
Dima, a young Syrian activist from Damascus, told Movements.org,“most of the websites that are important to us are banned. All of the local media outlets that oppose the regime cannot be accessed from Syria.”
For example, local websites, like SHRIL (Syrian Human Rights Information Link) that is run by famed Syrian activist Razan Zaitouneh, are blocked in Syria. SHRIL contains links to hundreds of websites that are currently banned, some of which were blocked years before the beginning of the revolution in Syria.
All4Syria is a website run by Syrian intellectual Ayman Abdel Nour. The regime banned his website in 2004 because it discusses issues considered taboo.
Ayman Abdel Nour, who was a council official under Bashar Assad, told Movements.org, “In Syria, there are 1,200 subscribers with free access to the Internet, all of whom are high ranking officials. Out of 1,200 subscribers, we receive 800 visitors every day. We also have a lot of subscribers who use proxy servers to visit the website, and we send 17,000 newsletters to email addresses daily.”
“We have our own way to browse these websites,” Dima told Movements.org. “For instance, we use programs like ‘Ultrasurf’ and ‘Tor’ in order to bypass the bans. Recently, we started using ‘tor’ more often because it’s more secure.”
2) Satellite connections
A few weeks before the revolution began, many Syrian expatriates provided activists on the ground with IP satellite phones, which they can use to browse the Internet without needing access to the Syrian network. These phones have allowed Syrian activists to post many of their videos online.
Amjad, a Syrian activist who lives in Homs, told Movements.org, “We still need a lot of technological support. The Internet is the only weapon that allows us to fight this regime that uses all kinds of real weapons to crack down on our uprising.”
3) Smuggling DVDs
When all else fails, activists have resorted to an older means of transmitting information. According to Amjad, many activists have smuggled DVDs containing images and footage from the Syrian crackdown into Turkey or Jordan in order to post them online. While this is nothe the most technologically advanced method, it shows just how far Syrian activists are willing to go to have their voices heard.
I know that we all love this site as an expression of our individuality, but the fact of the matter is, we are under attack. And what we do is distracting us from that fact.
The American government now has all the records from Megaupload’s servers. Do you know what that means for you? That means that if you have ever used Megaupload, the government has your fucking number. And they will come for you.
- Having sex every day. - Saving sex for your wedding night. - Never having sex. - Having sex with different people. - Having sex with one person. - Having sex with a person of your same gender. - Loving sex. - Hating sex. - Being loud. - Being quiet.
I am done with the forum. Internship duties FINISHED (for now)!!
"Lady, you should just be an anarchist." I didn’t realize they heard me.
I depart for France tomorrow. I haven’t packed.
I am over it and it was indeed just residue. What a liberating feeling!
NMUN-Europe. Holy shit.
That awkward feeling when you accidentally take a 15min nap after going out for drinks when hella tired and you feel like you’re going through a hangover and that horrible puke-y phase at the same time.
OMG I CAN WATCH SHERLOCK DURING MY 14-HOUR FLIGHT FUCK YES
or maybe I should study. Maybe.
Letting it go, letting it flow. How liberating. :)
Things to do in France:
Visit Occupy France
Check and attend any anti-ACTA protests (Belgium has one on the 28th but I won’t be there yet, buu)
Khartoum – Police fired teargas for a second day on Wednesday at students protesting against the appointment of a new governor in Sudan’s war-ravaged Darfur region, witnesses said.
Some were taken to hospital suffering from the gas, they said, estimating that hundreds of people had turned out in Nyala, the capital of South Darfur state, to show support for the former elected governor Abdul Hamid Kasha.
President Omar al-Bashir earlier this month replaced Kasha with an appointee, Hamad Ismail, and broke off parts of South Darfur to add two new states in the region which previously had three.
“People want Kasha,” protesters chanted as they marched through the streets, witnesses said. Many demonstrators were university and high school students, they added.
The unrest began on Tuesday at an official ceremony for the new governor, known locally as a “wali”, when protesters threw stones and burned tyres.
Khartoum last year signed a peace deal in Doha with an alliance of Darfur rebel splinter factions, but key rebel groups rejected the accord.
Among its provisions, the Doha peace document calls for a referendum on Darfur’s administrative structure.
At least 300 000 people have died in the Darfur conflict that first erupted in 2003 when African rebel groups rose up against the Arab-dominated Khartoum government, according to UN estimates.
Another 1.9 million people are living in camps for those displaced by the violence.
The government puts the total number of dead at around 10 000.
Bashir is wanted by The Hague-based International Criminal Court for alleged crimes against humanity, war crimes and genocide in Darfur.
I do love you—very much indeed—but my world cannot revolve around you. Painful as it is, I will live mine as you live yours. I can’t always be waiting; I have a life to live. I have a very busy life to live, indeed.
You know where to find me if you want me again.
I love myself enough to let go, even if I love you more than anyone else in this world.